Recently I've been obsessed with the differences between confidence and self-confidence.
With confidence you look to your past experiences for evidence that you can do something and do it well.
I feel very confident brushing my teeth, pouring a glass of water, driving a car or riding a horse because I have done those things many times before. I have a lot of evidence that supports feeling confident in those areas.
Self-confidence on the other hand is INTERNAL. It’s based on the belief you have about yourself. Self-confidence is an emotion that you generate without any history to back it up or external evidence.
So why does this matter?
Because having a strong belief about yourself and your abilities without evidence to back it up will get you closer to achieving your goals. It will propel you forward as you build your business and continue to...
Many people are chasing success. You want a successful business... a successful relationship... to be a successful mom... have a successful life!
We all have our own ideas of what success looks like.
Some people may think that having a successful relationship should look a certain way, or be for a certain length of time, or there has to be a certain level of commitment.
Some people may think that their business will be a "success" when they start making X amount of money... or when they're featured in Forbes... or when they are walking in the airport and see some random person wearing one of their products.
When I was building BE Outfitter - the backpack company that my partners and I sold last year - one of my business partners used to say, "the day I see some random person walking through the airport with one of our packs, that will be a symbol of success for me".
Here's the thing (and this is great news) YOU are the only person who can define success for yourself... YOU are the...
Are you a wellness entrepreneur? Do you have a business that helps to transform people and makes the world a better place?
Then what do you think is keeping you from making more money?
Do you think...
I could go on and on.
If you are a wellness entrepreneur and you want to grow your business and serve more people and make more money, then read this carefully...
The money you make is a direct result of how much you believe in yourself.
Read that again!
When you meet people who...
We can’t talk about entrepreneurship without bringing up that four letter word FAIL!
If you’re reading this and you’re an entrepreneur, then I’m going to assume that you know that failure is a good thing.
I’ll assume you know putting yourself out there as a business owner, making mistakes, and learning from them is how we grow as individuals and as entrepreneurs… and it’s also how we grow our businesses.
So I’m not going to share WHY failure is necessary because you already know that. I’m going to talk about failing on purpose.
I learned about the failure file from Ramit Sethi who is the author of I Will Teach You To Be Rich and the book Your Move: The Underdog's Guide to Building Your Business.
Here’s the deal (and any successful entrepreneur will tell you this), if you want to be more successful then you need to double, triple, or quadruple the amount of failures...
Running your own business isn’t for everyone – that’s why not many people do it. So what makes entrepreneurs different from anyone else in business?
I’ve been building businesses for over 20 years, and now that I've become a success coach for female entrepreneurs - I've noticed there are some interesting personality traits that entrepreneurs share, and some similarities in our upbringings I find fascinating.
Let me preface this by saying I haven’t done any formal research into this. These are simply my own observations being an entrepreneur for as long as I have been, being around other entrepreneurs, and coaching them.
All of the successful entrepreneurs I work with or know had parents who separated when they were young, or experienced significant dysfunction or trauma as a child.
Then we grow up and have something to prove.
We know how to deal with uncertainty...
A couple of weeks ago I watched a great training session with a powerhouse Master Coach who was coaching other coaches and female entrepreneurs.
This Master Coach makes approximately 18 million dollars a year coaching women on weight loss, and she was speaking with this young woman who is also a coach. This young woman was feeling incredibly frustrated and defeated because her business wasn’t taking off.
At one point during the conversation the young woman said in frustration, “why isn’t all the work I’ve been putting into this business working!?”
And the Master Coach took a moment, and said to her very calmly “Because you haven’t been doing it long enough yet, you need to keep going”
Well that just upset this young woman further, and she said, "ARE YOU KIDDING ME, I’VE BEEN DOING IT FOR FOUR YEARS!!"
And the Master Coach said “For 9 years it cost me more to run my business, than what I got out of it. I went from...
Self-Care has always been a popular a buzz word. When we think of self-care, we tend to think about getting a massage, or spending the afternoon with a friend to get a manicure, or taking a bubble bath, or going to a yoga class.
Pre-covid we incorporated self-care into our busy lives when we could. We knew it was important and felt proud of ourselves when we actually followed through with making it a priority.
At the very beginning of the pandemic and into the summer of 2020, my husband and I were focused on exercising, eating healthy, meditating, and doing whatever we could to take care of our health and wellbeing.
Our stress levels were incredibly high so keeping our health in check was important. I was trying to keep my businesses alive, we were worried and unsure about our daughter’s school situation, at one point during the summer we were dealing with evening curfews in New York (which was crazy!). Then we were pretty sure my husband got Covid… and the list...
How to control eating habits? What are the thoughts that eliminate desire? How do you become indifferent to food and wine?
Imagine being head over heels in love with someone only to find out they are a serial killer, torture puppies for fun, and are a horrible human being. That desire is gone!
Take a moment to visualize a delicious brownie (or some other food you have a HIGH desire for) and conjure up the feelings of wanting it sooooo badly. Now visualize it being full of maggots and it has cockroaches crawling all over it. Instantly that desire is gone.
Wanting a glass of wine is not a fact. Wanting is a choice. The desire for certain foods is a choice, but our brains are powerful so we trick ourselves into thinking and feeling that we want that cupcake… that we NEED it.
What do you want to create for yourself? Make a million dollars? Stop drinking? Stop eating food that...
My weight loss journey has been a real struggle for me these past couple of years. I’ve been dealing with:
However, when you have a high desire to lose weight coupled with a high desire for food, those other issues I listed above are not really the problem.
Today is Day 29 of my 30-day renewal and I’ve learned a lot! Truly the transformation I experienced did not occur with my body like I thought it would. The transformation came from opening my eyes to the fact that I REALLY want to lose weight… and I REALLY get a lot of pleasure from eating food and drinking good wine.
This is my current programing, and I didn’t realize how powerful and ingrained into my subconscious it is.
Well, now I need to address this high desire for delicious food and good wine. My brain is sending me signals...
Why is making massive changes in our lives hard to sustain?
We are wired to stay safe. We are wired to survive.
When our “normal” is eating crappy food and drinking too much alcohol, we feel safe. There's a comfort in making those choices because it's what we do on a regular basis.
Then there comes a time when we desperately want to make changes in our lives, but our brain freaks out because we’re stepping outside our safety zone. Maybe it’s losing weight, or quitting smoking, or starting your own business, or cutting back on alcohol, or quitting your job… it’s natural for us to RESIST change.
Intellectually we know making these changes are good for us. We know incorporating healthier lifestyle choices into our lives will in fact help us to survive and live longer… but our brain doesn’t see it that way. All it sees is that we have felt safe eating crappy food and drinking too much wine, so making these changes must be a bad thing....
In this 36-minute video you'll learn about the 8 steps to optimal well-being.