Recently I've been obsessed with the differences between confidence and self-confidence.
With confidence you look to your past experiences for evidence that you can do something and do it well.
I feel very confident brushing my teeth, pouring a glass of water, driving a car or riding a horse because I have done those things many times before. I have a lot of evidence that supports feeling confident in those areas.
Self-confidence on the other hand is INTERNAL. It’s based on the belief you have about yourself. Self-confidence is an emotion that you generate without any history to back it up or external evidence.
So why does this matter?
Because having a strong belief about yourself and your abilities without evidence to back it up will get you closer to achieving your goals. It will propel you forward as you build your business and continue to...
Many people are chasing success. You want a successful business... a successful relationship... to be a successful mom... have a successful life!
We all have our own ideas of what success looks like.
Some people may think that having a successful relationship should look a certain way, or be for a certain length of time, or there has to be a certain level of commitment.
Some people may think that their business will be a "success" when they start making X amount of money... or when they're featured in Forbes... or when they are walking in the airport and see some random person wearing one of their products.
When I was building BE Outfitter - the backpack company that my partners and I sold last year - one of my business partners used to say, "the day I see some random person walking through the airport with one of our packs, that will be a symbol of success for me".
Here's the thing (and this is great news) YOU are the only person who can define success for yourself... YOU are the...
Are you a wellness entrepreneur? Do you have a business that helps to transform people and makes the world a better place?
Then what do you think is keeping you from making more money?
Do you think...
I could go on and on.
If you are a wellness entrepreneur and you want to grow your business and serve more people and make more money, then read this carefully...
The money you make is a direct result of how much you believe in yourself.
Read that again!
When you meet people who...
We can’t talk about entrepreneurship without bringing up that four letter word FAIL!
If you’re reading this and you’re an entrepreneur, then I’m going to assume that you know that failure is a good thing.
I’ll assume you know putting yourself out there as a business owner, making mistakes, and learning from them is how we grow as individuals and as entrepreneurs… and it’s also how we grow our businesses.
So I’m not going to share WHY failure is necessary because you already know that. I’m going to talk about failing on purpose.
I learned about the failure file from Ramit Sethi who is the author of I Will Teach You To Be Rich and the book Your Move: The Underdog's Guide to Building Your Business.
Here’s the deal (and any successful entrepreneur will tell you this), if you want to be more successful then you need to double, triple, or quadruple the amount of failures...
A couple of weeks ago I watched a great training session with a powerhouse Master Coach who was coaching other coaches and female entrepreneurs.
This Master Coach makes approximately 18 million dollars a year coaching women on weight loss, and she was speaking with this young woman who is also a coach. This young woman was feeling incredibly frustrated and defeated because her business wasn’t taking off.
At one point during the conversation the young woman said in frustration, “why isn’t all the work I’ve been putting into this business working!?”
And the Master Coach took a moment, and said to her very calmly “Because you haven’t been doing it long enough yet, you need to keep going”
Well that just upset this young woman further, and she said, "ARE YOU KIDDING ME, I’VE BEEN DOING IT FOR FOUR YEARS!!"
And the Master Coach said “For 9 years it cost me more to run my business, than what I got out of it. I went from...
Why is making massive changes in our lives hard to sustain?
We are wired to stay safe. We are wired to survive.
When our “normal” is eating crappy food and drinking too much alcohol, we feel safe. There's a comfort in making those choices because it's what we do on a regular basis.
Then there comes a time when we desperately want to make changes in our lives, but our brain freaks out because we’re stepping outside our safety zone. Maybe it’s losing weight, or quitting smoking, or starting your own business, or cutting back on alcohol, or quitting your job… it’s natural for us to RESIST change.
Intellectually we know making these changes are good for us. We know incorporating healthier lifestyle choices into our lives will in fact help us to survive and live longer… but our brain doesn’t see it that way. All it sees is that we have felt safe eating crappy food and drinking too much wine, so making these changes must be a bad thing....
When You Know Your WHY, You Know Your WAY!
I’ve been talking about knowing your WHY with my coaching clients a long time before Simon Sinek made it popular.
We see the question “what’s your why?” in books, podcasts, motivational talks and workshops. It helps us establish meaning and a purpose behind our drive.
Knowing our WHY also helps us develop a sense of purpose. Studies show that people who feel a sense of purpose make more money, are happier, healthier & more confident, and deal with stress & anxiety more easily.
So here I am, on a 30-day renewal and today is day 9.
Have I slipped a little? Yep! In full transparency, on day 6 and 7 I slipped and didn’t fully stick to my plan. I’m back on track now, but what I realized is that I didn't get clear on my WHY at the beginning of the 30 days so it was easier to justify cheating.
No one is forcing me to do this 30-day renewal. I can drop it today and forget about it...
Well 2020... That Was Weird!
If last year has taught us anything, it's that things can go sideways really quickly and knock you off balance!
What does that mean to you?
I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately as I’ve been shifting my energy and how I spend my days. Normally my days are time blocked from the moment I wake up to the moment my head hits the pillow at night. Meetings, sessions with clients, working out, creating programs, updating websites, meditating, working with my staff, eating, professional development, webinars, social media, writing, shooting videos, going live, family and domestic responsibilities.... ALL the things and more squeezed into a very short day.
That's the way it's been for a long time, but not any more. Over the past several weeks I've:
Dr. Jessica O'Reilly travels around the world speaking at events, hosting retreats and working with some of the most powerful couples in the world. She's also the author of several books including Hot Sex, and is a contributor to Women's Health Magazine, Men's Fitness, Cosmopolitan, Showtime and Playboy TV, to name a few. This sexpert is a busy lady, but I had the opportunity to host a live webinar with her - exclusively for my Academy students. Here’s an excerpt from that hot and heavy Q & A.
Kelsey Matheson: When you feel like the attraction for your partner has faded, what can you do? Is this something that can be helped or changed?
Dr. Jess: So if the attraction doesn't fade, I'd be more questioning of it. Attraction inevitably fades and it's a simple chemical process, so once you get to know them, once they become predictable, once you feel close to them, once you're attached to them. Inevitably you're not...
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