How to control eating habits? What are the thoughts that eliminate desire? How do you become indifferent to food and wine?
Imagine being head over heels in love with someone only to find out they are a serial killer, torture puppies for fun, and are a horrible human being. That desire is gone!
Take a moment to visualize a delicious brownie (or some other food you have a HIGH desire for) and conjure up the feelings of wanting it sooooo badly. Now visualize it being full of maggots and it has cockroaches crawling all over it. Instantly that desire is gone.
Wanting a glass of wine is not a fact. Wanting is a choice. The desire for certain foods is a choice, but our brains are powerful so we trick ourselves into thinking and feeling that we want that cupcake… that we NEED it.
What do you want to create for yourself? Make a million dollars? Stop drinking? Stop eating food that...
My weight loss journey has been a real struggle for me these past couple of years. I’ve been dealing with:
However, when you have a high desire to lose weight coupled with a high desire for food, those other issues I listed above are not really the problem.
Today is Day 29 of my 30-day renewal and I’ve learned a lot! Truly the transformation I experienced did not occur with my body like I thought it would. The transformation came from opening my eyes to the fact that I REALLY want to lose weight… and I REALLY get a lot of pleasure from eating food and drinking good wine.
This is my current programing, and I didn’t realize how powerful and ingrained into my subconscious it is.
Well, now I need to address this high desire for delicious food and good wine. My brain is sending me signals...
Why is making massive changes in our lives hard to sustain?
We are wired to stay safe. We are wired to survive.
When our “normal” is eating crappy food and drinking too much alcohol, we feel safe. There's a comfort in making those choices because it's what we do on a regular basis.
Then there comes a time when we desperately want to make changes in our lives, but our brain freaks out because we’re stepping outside our safety zone. Maybe it’s losing weight, or quitting smoking, or starting your own business, or cutting back on alcohol, or quitting your job… it’s natural for us to RESIST change.
Intellectually we know making these changes are good for us. We know incorporating healthier lifestyle choices into our lives will in fact help us to survive and live longer… but our brain doesn’t see it that way. All it sees is that we have felt safe eating crappy food and drinking too much wine, so making these changes must be a bad thing....
When You Know Your WHY, You Know Your WAY!
I’ve been talking about knowing your WHY with my coaching clients a long time before Simon Sinek made it popular.
We see the question “what’s your why?” in books, podcasts, motivational talks and workshops. It helps us establish meaning and a purpose behind our drive.
Knowing our WHY also helps us develop a sense of purpose. Studies show that people who feel a sense of purpose make more money, are happier, healthier & more confident, and deal with stress & anxiety more easily.
So here I am, on a 30-day renewal and today is day 9.
Have I slipped a little? Yep! In full transparency, on day 6 and 7 I slipped and didn’t fully stick to my plan. I’m back on track now, but what I realized is that I didn't get clear on my WHY at the beginning of the 30 days so it was easier to justify cheating.
No one is forcing me to do this 30-day renewal. I can drop it today and forget about it...
Well 2020... That Was Weird!
If last year has taught us anything, it's that things can go sideways really quickly and knock you off balance!
As a life coach who guides people to set goals and achieve them, I first work with my clients to think about, and then focus on, a desired outcome.
This is a process that generates results. Every time. However, some are not so convinced.
Case in point: A good friend of mine, a sales rep for a large company, was telling me that a client of his was asking way too much from him – at least he saw it that way. This client was expecting a list of strategies, and contacts, and sales goals that my friend had to provide. While I was chatting with my sales rep friend it became very apparent that this wasn’t his regular style of working. He actually had quite an aversion to it. I asked him if he’d be willing to try this new sales approach if his desire to work with this client was strong enough.
His answer… Goals don’t work, nobody ever looks at the goals they make, they’re stupid!
Wow! I wasn’t...
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