A couple of weeks ago I watched a great training session with a powerhouse Master Coach who was coaching other coaches and female entrepreneurs.
This Master Coach makes approximately 18 million dollars a year coaching women on weight loss, and she was speaking with this young woman who is also a coach. This young woman was feeling incredibly frustrated and defeated because her business wasn’t taking off.
At one point during the conversation the young woman said in frustration, “why isn’t all the work I’ve been putting into this business working!?”
And the Master Coach took a moment, and said to her very calmly “Because you haven’t been doing it long enough yet, you need to keep going”
Well that just upset this young woman further, and she said, "ARE YOU KIDDING ME, I’VE BEEN DOING IT FOR FOUR YEARS!!"
And the Master Coach said “For 9 years it cost me more to run my business, than what I got out of it. I went from...
My weight loss journey has been a real struggle for me these past couple of years. I’ve been dealing with:
However, when you have a high desire to lose weight coupled with a high desire for food, those other issues I listed above are not really the problem.
Today is Day 29 of my 30-day renewal and I’ve learned a lot! Truly the transformation I experienced did not occur with my body like I thought it would. The transformation came from opening my eyes to the fact that I REALLY want to lose weight… and I REALLY get a lot of pleasure from eating food and drinking good wine.
This is my current programing, and I didn’t realize how powerful and ingrained into my subconscious it is.
Well, now I need to address this high desire for delicious food and good wine. My brain is sending me signals...
Why is making massive changes in our lives hard to sustain?
We are wired to stay safe. We are wired to survive.
When our “normal” is eating crappy food and drinking too much alcohol, we feel safe. There's a comfort in making those choices because it's what we do on a regular basis.
Then there comes a time when we desperately want to make changes in our lives, but our brain freaks out because we’re stepping outside our safety zone. Maybe it’s losing weight, or quitting smoking, or starting your own business, or cutting back on alcohol, or quitting your job… it’s natural for us to RESIST change.
Intellectually we know making these changes are good for us. We know incorporating healthier lifestyle choices into our lives will in fact help us to survive and live longer… but our brain doesn’t see it that way. All it sees is that we have felt safe eating crappy food and drinking too much wine, so making these changes must be a bad thing....
When You Know Your WHY, You Know Your WAY!
I’ve been talking about knowing your WHY with my coaching clients a long time before Simon Sinek made it popular.
We see the question “what’s your why?” in books, podcasts, motivational talks and workshops. It helps us establish meaning and a purpose behind our drive.
Knowing our WHY also helps us develop a sense of purpose. Studies show that people who feel a sense of purpose make more money, are happier, healthier & more confident, and deal with stress & anxiety more easily.
So here I am, on a 30-day renewal and today is day 9.
Have I slipped a little? Yep! In full transparency, on day 6 and 7 I slipped and didn’t fully stick to my plan. I’m back on track now, but what I realized is that I didn't get clear on my WHY at the beginning of the 30 days so it was easier to justify cheating.
No one is forcing me to do this 30-day renewal. I can drop it today and forget about it...
re·new·al | \ ri-ˈnü-əl
1. : the act or process of renewing
2. : the quality or state of being renewed
I've done my fair share of challenges, cleanses and detoxes... but this month I'm choosing to focus on my health for a much needed 30-day RENEWAL!
Well 2020... That Was Weird!
If last year has taught us anything, it's that things can go sideways really quickly and knock you off balance!
One of my stories is that nothing ever works out for me.
It’s been playing over and over in my head a lot lately. The voice has been getting louder and louder… especially over the past few years.
If I were to sit down and make a list of all the things that have worked out for me, I’m sure it would take a significant amount of time. It’s not lost on me that throughout my life I’ve achieved a lot and have been very successful. Intellectually I know that I’ve accomplished a lot. I recognize that I’ve had many incredible experiences and I’ve lived an amazing and fulfilling life on so many levels. But my story is that I can’t do anything right… nothing works out for me… why do I even bother. Blah, Blah, Blah!
I KNOW that everything happens for us (and not to us)… I KNOW we create our own realities and circumstances… I KNOW our challenges help us to learn and grow and evolve… I KNOW the...
I learned about them from Dr John Amaral, who studied with and was mentored by Dr Donny Epstein.
The 4 Sacred Seasons are Discover, Transform, Awaken & Integrate.
When you’re in the season of Discover, shit is hitting the fan so-to-speak. Life has thrown you a curve ball and you’re being asked to discover something about yourself that you’ve been avoiding, suppressing, numbing, resisting… all the things we do as humans to evade the stuff in our lives we need to take a closer look at, acknowledge and accept about ourselves or our situation.
Transform is the season when you are full of energy and you take massive action! It’s actually more painful for you to NOT take action in this season. You see the future… the future is now… you set goals and work towards achieving them. You feel invigorated, motivated and excited about what you’re creating so there’s a lot of momentum and action.
I’m tired of feeling like nothing is working.
I’m tired of being sad.
I’m tired of working so fucking hard.
Recently I’ve taken a few things off my plate and will continue to over the next few months. I've sold one of my businesses... I stopped running my Mastermind for Female Entrepreneurs... I've opened up my schedule... I've put a pause on 1:1 coaching... and there will be more changes in the upcoming months.
My focus now will be to wake up every morning, meditate, tune into what I really need to be focusing on… and do THAT.
I will do the thing that I’m guided to do during my morning meditation and journaling practice.
If I receive a message during my meditation that says I need to focus on spending more time with my daughter… I’ll organize my time around THAT.
If I’m guided to write a blog post that day… I’ll do that.
If I get a message that I need to reach out to a specific friend or family member…...
It’s my personal drug of choice.
When I travel on my own for business, it also means time to myself. I might be surrounded by hundreds of strangers at the airport, or on an airplane, but I feel like I have uninterrupted time…unless it’s to take my dinner order, or ask me what I’d like to drink.
I travel to Japan a number of times per year, and some of those trips are only for 2 – 3 days at a time. From NYC to Tokyo is a 13-hour flight and I LOVE IT! During those hours I get to read, watch a movie or two, focus on work, listen to a podcast, or the current business book I’m enjoying on Audible, practice the languages I’m trying to learn, write in my journal, or get some sleep. On some trips it’s all of the above....
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