Last week was an extremely stressful week – or what I perceived to be a stressful week. The tragedy in Manhattan, combined with business and personal issues, caused me to feel overwhelmed, tense, and anxious. Not a fun time, nor is it how I normally feel day to day.
I recall feeling in a similar state a couple of years ago, but something happened that helped me put all of the “stress” I was feeling into perspective.
It was the spring of 2015, and a dear friend of mine announced that his healthy and vibrant brother had suddenly passed away at the age of 37. He suddenly collapsed for no apparent reason and the paramedics were unable revive him.
I was so shocked by the news, but it’s amazing how something like this immediately shifts your experience. I know what I’m feeling isn’t new or really all that profound… what is profound is the moment you feel it. The moment all that perceived...
It’s my personal drug of choice.
When I travel on my own for business, it also means time to myself. I might be surrounded by hundreds of strangers at the airport, or on an airplane, but I feel like I have uninterrupted time…unless it’s to take my dinner order, or ask me what I’d like to drink.
I travel to Japan a number of times per year, and some of those trips are only for 2 – 3 days at a time. From NYC to Tokyo is a 13-hour flight and I LOVE IT! During those hours I get to read, watch a movie or two, focus on work, listen to a podcast, or the current business book I’m enjoying on Audible, practice the languages I’m trying to learn, write in my journal, or get some sleep. On some trips it’s all of the above....
Now don’t get all defensive and think this is about “a woman knowing her place” … I’m well aware we’ve come a long way since the 50s. This post is really about strategies that ensure you, as a wife and partner, are happy first. I’ve learned that without baseline joy and contentment, there’s no way a woman can bring herself fully into a relationship.
That may seem counter intuitive when we're talking about relationships, but it's so important that a woman take some time for herself, or she won't be able to truly be present for her partner. Book yourself a massage, enjoy a bubble bath with a glass of wine (or champagne if you’re fancy), go to your local Zumba class - whatever works for you. Once you've showered yourself with a bit of love, you will be in a far better position to shower your loved ones with it as well.
Dr. Jessica O'Reilly travels around the world speaking at events, hosting retreats and working with some of the most powerful couples in the world. She's also the author of several books including Hot Sex, and is a contributor to Women's Health Magazine, Men's Fitness, Cosmopolitan, Showtime and Playboy TV, to name a few. This sexpert is a busy lady, but I had the opportunity to host a live webinar with her - exclusively for my Academy students. Here’s an excerpt from that hot and heavy Q & A.
Kelsey Matheson: When you feel like the attraction for your partner has faded, what can you do? Is this something that can be helped or changed?
Dr. Jess: So if the attraction doesn't fade, I'd be more questioning of it. Attraction inevitably fades and it's a simple chemical process, so once you get to know them, once they become predictable, once you feel close to them, once you're attached to them. Inevitably you're not...
In this podcast, Kelsey gets interviewed by KC Armstrong, host of WMAP Radio. They discuss challenges and how to bounce back stronger than ever. Kelsey dives into her personal struggles and why she decided to get into the sort of life coaching and health coaching that supports and empowers women.
As a life coach who guides people to set goals and achieve them, I first work with my clients to think about, and then focus on, a desired outcome.
This is a process that generates results. Every time. However, some are not so convinced.
Case in point: A good friend of mine, a sales rep for a large company, was telling me that a client of his was asking way too much from him – at least he saw it that way. This client was expecting a list of strategies, and contacts, and sales goals that my friend had to provide. While I was chatting with my sales rep friend it became very apparent that this wasn’t his regular style of working. He actually had quite an aversion to it. I asked him if he’d be willing to try this new sales approach if his desire to work with this client was strong enough.
His answer… Goals don’t work, nobody ever looks at the goals they make, they’re stupid!
Wow! I wasn’t...
Manifest. How huge is this buzzword? No doubt you have heard it thrown around a lot. Regardless of its trendiness, I really believe in the power of manifesting and I’m going to tell you why.
Not long ago, over brunch, my friend was telling me that she really believes in the power of manifestation, but her boyfriend doesn’t.
She’s a young writer, and one of her high level goals is to write for the New York Times. It’s a lofty goal, and not an easy thing to achieve, especially being Canadian. So when her boyfriend was in New York for work, she asked him to bring her home a copy of the newspaper so she could display it in her house and have it act as a symbol to help her make her dream come true.
She was a bit shy in telling me all this because she didn’t know how I would react,...
Get Gutsy University offers women training, coaching and community so that they can step into leadership roles. Its creator, Jenny Fenig, hosts a monthly podcast and she interviewed me recently to talk about my roles as an entrepreneur, coach, wife and mother. The conversation was enlightening and, I promise, you will feel like you know me a whole lot better after listening. And with that... Get Gutsy!
At the beginning of March, I joined two of my friends in a month-long exercise challenge where we had to commit to doing some sort of exercise every single day. It was a very interesting month. I had two business trips – one to San Diego and the other to Japan (which included two 24-hour travel days). I also had to deal with a snow day at the beginning of the month… so my daughter was home from school on a day that I didn’t plan for. One of my friends I was doing the challenge with got incredibly sick and was hosting a number of events around the same time. Despite these seemingly very good excuses not to follow through, we all still managed to complete our challenge!
Every single day we did some sort of exercise. On the days I was traveling, and it felt like I didn’t have any time whatsoever, I did an 8 minute Fastblast – which is a HIIT workout (a high intensity interval training workout). On the days...
In the lead up to the wrap up of my 8-week Optimal Health and Conscious Living course, I ran a group coaching session with my coach, Amy K. Yes, coaches have coaches, and both my husband and I work with Amy, who specializes in taking people to their full potential. In fact, she really helped us realize our dream of moving to New York City.
The goal of this particular session was to bring all of the women enrolled in my program together to look at their desired outcomes. These goals were set at the beginning of the course and, after taking in weeks of content dealing with everything from food sensitivities to adrenal health to sexual health to meditation and mindfulness, it was time to look at how could they best incorporate all this valuable information into their everyday lives.
Whatever it is in life – a coach or course that we expect to transform us; the new gym membership - we can get so caught...
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