Self-Care has always been a popular a buzz word. When we think of self-care, we tend to think about getting a massage, or spending the afternoon with a friend to get a manicure, or taking a bubble bath, or going to a yoga class.
Pre-covid we incorporated self-care into our busy lives when we could. We knew it was important and felt proud of ourselves when we actually followed through with making it a priority.
At the very beginning of the pandemic and into the summer of 2020, my husband and I were focused on exercising, eating healthy, meditating, and doing whatever we could to take care of our health and wellbeing.
Our stress levels were incredibly high so keeping our health in check was important. I was trying to keep my businesses alive, we were worried and unsure about our daughter’s school situation, at one point during the summer we were dealing with evening curfews in New York (which was crazy!). Then we were pretty sure my husband got Covid… and the list...
What does that mean to you?
I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately as I’ve been shifting my energy and how I spend my days. Normally my days are time blocked from the moment I wake up to the moment my head hits the pillow at night. Meetings, sessions with clients, working out, creating programs, updating websites, meditating, working with my staff, eating, professional development, webinars, social media, writing, shooting videos, going live, family and domestic responsibilities.... ALL the things and more squeezed into a very short day.
That's the way it's been for a long time, but not any more. Over the past several weeks I've:
One of my stories is that nothing ever works out for me.
It’s been playing over and over in my head a lot lately. The voice has been getting louder and louder… especially over the past few years.
If I were to sit down and make a list of all the things that have worked out for me, I’m sure it would take a significant amount of time. It’s not lost on me that throughout my life I’ve achieved a lot and have been very successful. Intellectually I know that I’ve accomplished a lot. I recognize that I’ve had many incredible experiences and I’ve lived an amazing and fulfilling life on so many levels. But my story is that I can’t do anything right… nothing works out for me… why do I even bother. Blah, Blah, Blah!
I KNOW that everything happens for us (and not to us)… I KNOW we create our own realities and circumstances… I KNOW our challenges help us to learn and grow and evolve… I KNOW the...
I learned about them from Dr John Amaral, who studied with and was mentored by Dr Donny Epstein.
The 4 Sacred Seasons are Discover, Transform, Awaken & Integrate.
When you’re in the season of Discover, shit is hitting the fan so-to-speak. Life has thrown you a curve ball and you’re being asked to discover something about yourself that you’ve been avoiding, suppressing, numbing, resisting… all the things we do as humans to evade the stuff in our lives we need to take a closer look at, acknowledge and accept about ourselves or our situation.
Transform is the season when you are full of energy and you take massive action! It’s actually more painful for you to NOT take action in this season. You see the future… the future is now… you set goals and work towards achieving them. You feel invigorated, motivated and excited about what you’re creating so there’s a lot of momentum and action.
I’m tired of feeling like nothing is working.
I’m tired of being sad.
I’m tired of working so fucking hard.
Recently I’ve taken a few things off my plate and will continue to over the next few months. I've sold one of my businesses... I stopped running my Mastermind for Female Entrepreneurs... I've opened up my schedule... I've put a pause on 1:1 coaching... and there will be more changes in the upcoming months.
My focus now will be to wake up every morning, meditate, tune into what I really need to be focusing on… and do THAT.
I will do the thing that I’m guided to do during my morning meditation and journaling practice.
If I receive a message during my meditation that says I need to focus on spending more time with my daughter… I’ll organize my time around THAT.
If I’m guided to write a blog post that day… I’ll do that.
If I get a message that I need to reach out to a specific friend or family member…...
Last week was an extremely stressful week – or what I perceived to be a stressful week. The tragedy in Manhattan, combined with business and personal issues, caused me to feel overwhelmed, tense, and anxious. Not a fun time, nor is it how I normally feel day to day.
I recall feeling in a similar state a couple of years ago, but something happened that helped me put all of the “stress” I was feeling into perspective.
It was the spring of 2015, and a dear friend of mine announced that his healthy and vibrant brother had suddenly passed away at the age of 37. He suddenly collapsed for no apparent reason and the paramedics were unable revive him.
I was so shocked by the news, but it’s amazing how something like this immediately shifts your experience. I know what I’m feeling isn’t new or really all that profound… what is profound is the moment you feel it. The moment all that perceived...
In this 36-minute video you'll learn about the 8 steps to optimal well-being.